The best days of my life were spent during my college days.
And I don't say this without a reason.
There is a distinctive 'aashiqui' thread that I keep talking about.
That's common everywhere as long as a guy has hormones to keep playing!
Ok.. coming back, have you ever felt that you like/love someone but are just not getting the kind of response that you'd like to?
How simple is it to decode?
Is it just that the 'bird' isn't interested? Or is the 'bird' playing around?
Well, it can be both. It's not that easy for a guy to dissect.
First up, you have to learn to decode the reaction through common expressions that she shows.
She might be smart and brilliant, but when you throw a hint at her, does she reply stupidly or just like she did not understand what you meant?
Well, if this is the case, then she isn't dumb, you are.
You are the biggest moron on the planet.
Then there are girls who just do not understand anything.. whatever you say, they just laugh it off!!
Believe me, they are the most irritating lot.
But inside, they too might be intelligent!! Beware.
There was one guy in another college whom I knew during my college days, Purab Dambekar(name changed of course).
I sometimes felt for him, because I never understood if what he did for 4 years was even worth it or not.
He tirelessly pursued Anjali Matondkar(again name changed of course).
First, I felt it was a true case of aashiqui.
I watched from the sidelines. Slowly by the end of first year, it became a kind of junoon for him and he thought he was the next SRK from Darr.
Anjali always was friendly with him... talked when it mattered or replied when talked to.
Purab took this for something else and fell deeper for her.
In the second year, took a gift and went ahead and did the unthinkable on 14th February.
Got royally snubbed, came back dejected, downed 8 bottles of beer and spent the nite in the lavatory puking.
But Purab sir, for whatever reasons, thought that Anjali was his partner, you know, like saat janam waali.
Like the ones that get manufactured in YashRaj films.
Kept pursuing and passing comments on other guys who were friendly with her.
Third year passed, proposed again, got slapped across this time.
The resolve got even firmer.
Fourth year, 'bas-abhi-nahi-toh-kabhi-nahi' syndrome took him over.
Tried all tricks in the book, never got the girl, but failed in the exams.
The result, girl happily got done with her engineering, guy sat around for another year sulking and completed his engineering in 5 years instead of 4.
Now, in my eyes, this is a classic case of uber-moronism where the guy should've fathomed in the first year itself that the 'bird' belonged to a different species.
The 'poor boy meets NRI girl-knocks the wind out of her sails-and they live happily ever after' never works in real life.
Lesson 1 : Get Real.
Lesson 2 : If your subtle hints don't work, there is good chance that they never will.
Example : If you say, you have been thinking a lot lately, and she asks about whom? Sachin Tendulkar?
You have got to get the signal.
Lesson 3 : Often, its better to be direct and get your answer. If its a yes, live happily ever after, if its a no, look for another branch and another bird.
Lesson 4 : Never under-estimate the people who may be her confidants and in-the-know of things. A smitten kitten is more easier to spot than a tiger in the yellow grass.
Lesson 5 : Always do a benchmarking exercise before beginning a voyage. Every Seal doesn't mandatorily get a Heidi Klum.
There too, Heidi was very 'high-maintenance' and Seal was perpetually rich.
This, I realized when I saw so many guys fooling around in the 4 years. It continues to show up till date, but on a lower scale.
The Junoon isn't so pronounced, it's more subtle and subdued, but the 5 lessons still hold true!
The generation has moved ahead! and i feel like a grandpa already :)
there is a post on the BB...
How to make my girlfriend miss me soooooo much!
not so long ago, people used to think twice before posting such things on general BB... forget about bigger & better things like PDA! :D
People are replying left right centre... buy a bouquet and switch off the mobile for a few days... then call her and see.. how she tells you how much she missed you these 3 days!
mind blowing yaar!!
The talent for aashiqui has always run deep in our blood... right from the days i saw anil kapoor wooing madhuri dixit in the 80s and 90s.. or aamir and juhi coochie cooing and saying... 'tumhein pata hai... aaj maine tumhe kitna miss kiya??'
All these years, from the transition of India from the age of scooters to mobikes, from landlines to cell phones, and from girls to chics... the 'aashiqui' thread has remained common!
There is an undying spirit... which says... when a lion also needs a lioness... what wrong am i doing??
Perfect sir! You are doing no wrong... i am just discussing the bird's eye point of view.
I remember.. while in college.. all this was pretty normal... infact guys of the same hostel.. same room try to upstage each other to win the lioness!
I salute the 'aashiqui' spirit.. just like India salutes the Mumbai spirit.. i love the fact that no matter what the odds.. no matter where you are.. no matter how many people are there around you.. no matter which platform you choose(including the BB) ... the famed 'aashiqs' just 'do it' anywhere!
What's new with me?
I feel i have grown up.. because these days i look down on the younger generation :)
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